1. HE WOULD MEET YOU ANYWHERE ASIDES YOUR HOME OR HIS HOME ; Beware of men like this and trust your intuitions when dealing with them. There’s a time to hangout and there’s a time to get serious. if the only place both if you meet or spend time together is at the eatries, beach, movies or wherever, then it can only mean one, two or three of this reasons
* he is not serious about your relationship
* he is lying to you
* he is hiding something from you.
Either way, its something to be worried about especially if you are thinking long term.
# 2. HE INTRODUCES YOU AS “JUST A FRIEND “: Now there are two sides to this & a thing line divides them. At the onset of a relationship that is what both of you are to each other. As the relationship matures, it is expected that it becomes defined. If after years of dating he still introduces you “Just a Friend “, it implies that you are nothing more than that to him & he has not started to see a future with you.
# 3. HE DOESN’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS LIFE OR ACTIONS: it’s should disturb you if you’re with a man who blames people for everything ;finding it dufficult to accept responsibility. Responsibility is a major sign of maturity & a proof or readiness for the next level. Marriage is not for people who cannot accept the consequences of their actions. Neither is it for those who depend on others for everything.
# 4. YOU’RE NOT INCLUDED IN HIS FUTURE PLANS : You can tell a lot from the way a person talks & that includes the man you’re in a relationship with. When he talks about the future are you included in those plans? If he’s consistently talking about his future & plans for tomorrow without any sign or hint of you, then he might not be ready.
# 5. IF HE IS SECRETIVE: A man who doesn’t tell you anything about himself or his plans is someone to watch out for. A man you plan on spending the rest of your life with should be able to open up to you or confide in you. If he ends his phone call abruptly simply because you show up or acts sneaky he either has something to hide or does not feel comfortable sharing his info with you.
# 6. HE WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY : One of the things that got me comfortable with my husband real quick was his ability to take me to his home & introduce me to his family. Despite the fact that we just met about 2 weeks ago, it made me see him as a responsible adult & made me begin to think long term of our newly found relationship. A man’s family says a lot about who he is and where he is coming from; an essential requirement for a serious relationship. If he doesn’t introduce you to his family…….. he is not serious about you & You’re not important to him…..
# 7. HE HAS NO JOB : This is a major red light when Marriage talks begin to come up. Although this might be no fault of his, a man needs to have a reasonable & steady source of income. Financial security is not only important to a woman, a man without financial security is an accident waiting to happen. Money makes a man feel in control and the ability to provide for his family is key. If he has no job, he is not financially independent; if he’s not financially independent, he has no business getting married.
The list is not exhaustive it’s your job to read the signs.
Written By Eyitemi Oluwumi