As child I was taught to recognize and use the magic words “Thank you, Please, I’m sorry ” . I’m most certain that I’m not the only One with this insight , we have used these words at various times in our lives and realize that these words have the capacity to open doors for us & make our lives a whole lot easier.
The average man has learnt to extend common courtesy to his Friends, Colleagues at work, but unfortunately not their spouses. Besides all the feelings of love & romance that exist between couples, the place of appreciation is priceless. Showing courtesy and using the right words has a way of easing all the tension in our relationship.
It’s been discovered that before marriage, men & women are the experts in being courtecious in Showing respect to one another; you find men are quick to open the door for their ladies to come out of the car, the women don’t have any difficulty using the word please. At that stage of courtship the courtesy enjoyed is what makes each party feel wanted drawn to each other and Consequently more in love with One another.
When you’re nice to your spouse, you begin to fill each others emotional tank, when you stop being nice or Showing courtesy, that tank becomes depleted . That tank, cannot be empty & God help you if you’re not the one filling it. It’s a common, error for couples to take each other for granted.
Have you ever encountered the frustration of a spouse who won’t say ” I’m sorry, please or thank you “? I’m sure you can Imagine how annoying it is. You would agree with me that its not as though the I’m sorry can undo a wrong, nor will a thank you add to your Number of years… but these words simply make you feel appreciated, wanted & special.
Soon enough when we begin to talk about love Languages you would discover that ” words of affirmation & acts of service ” love languages which if spoken ibcreases your spouses love for you.
For some people, the right words and being nice to them is how you won their hearts, you will need to do same to keep those hearts.
The nicecities & magic words do not end with courtship & dating, it’s a requirement to keep the flame burning in your marriage.
Courtesy is a non-verbal way of telling your spouse you appreciate him / her.
Written By Eyitemi Oluwumi