At creation we see the master strategist (God) at work. Everyone & everything he created had clearly defined roles (man & woman inclusive). There were no errors, no overlapping roles or shades of grey ; crystal clear & precise as the cuts on a diamond . It was the man’s role to work his environment & provide for his family while the woman bore his children & made the house a home.
I’m not advocating that women leave their jobs,quit supporting their families & turn themselves into baby factories ; but that was as basic as it was back then. Back in those days things worked, children where brought up with the much needed character & moral ethics needed to fit into the fabric of the society. Each family member knew what was expected of them & then lived up to that expectation. That is exactly why marriages in those days survived & families thrived & todays marriages are falling apart.
We (todays generation of marriages) seem to have lost our sense of direction & purpose. We no longer have clearly defined roles, we constantly struggle & compete with each other, bash into each others lanes and Consequently end up with chaotic marriage & home in our hands.
The one place where we can learn about roles & how they can make our homes better is the LION’S PRIDE. Although they are animals, the survival of the pride (family) depends largely on the Lions & Lionesses doing what is expected of them.
The Lionesses (females) are the prime hunters of the pride. They go out to hunt for preys that will feed the pride. Even among the hunting party, there are roles to be played. One team chases the prey, a second team waits in ambush to attack. It all boils down to role playing & execution.
The Lion (male) on the other hand plays the primary role of territorial defense. They urinate round their territory to mark it as theirs, roar to generate fear & literally chase of any intruder.
Now it might seem illogical to you at first, because it seems the male is playing the role of the female and the female playing the role of the man. But looking at it from another angle, we make some amazing discoveries. The lioness has a natural physique that makes her swift, nimble and sneaky. The lioness can lie behind grasses on an open ground for hours without risking discovery; skills that are needed for successful hunting. The Lion on the other hand has a physique & a roar that can intimidate anyone. Of what use is the Lion’s roar on a hunting ground? That doesn’t mean the Lion never hunts or that the Lioness never defends when they “need ” to.
It doesn’t matter if the lioness hunts & the Lion babysits, what matters is that they have well defined roles, they are playing those roles & it’s working for them. In all honesty, I care less about who does what in your home as long as it works for you. You & your spouse should access each others strenght,weaknesses & giftings and assign roles and responsibility based on them. If the man is more prudent & economical nothing stops him from doing the familys shopping; or if the woman earns more , she can pick up the larger chunk of the family’s buget.
Forget about what people might say or think , focus on doing what works for the both of you; then only fools will be able to doubt the proof of a family pride that works.
Written By Eyitemi Oluwumi